Why Do I Keep Feeling Stuck?

Discover the Nervous System’s Role in Repeating Life Patterns

It’s not about willpower or personal failure. It’s about learning to work with your nervous system, not against it.

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your life—even after therapy, workshops, or self-reflection? You’re not alone.

In this free video, clinical psychologist and trauma specialist Dr. Jeffrey Rutstein shares why so many of us feel trapped in cycles of frustration, disconnection, or shutdown. The answer lies not in weakness, but in how the nervous system is wired for survival.

You’ll discover:

  • Why logic and insight aren’t always enough to create change

  • How fight, flight, and shutdown states secretly shape your behavior

  • Why your nervous system prioritizes safety and predictability over growth

  • Simple, practical tools to regulate your state and reclaim choice in the moment

What You’ll Take Away:

  • A compassionate understanding of why you feel stuck

  • Somatic practices to calm anxiety, soothe anger, or lift out of shutdown

  • Hope that change is possible—because small shifts create real freedom

  • Jeffrey has an extraordinarily calming voice and a warm, grounded presence. People go deep in his care and feel safe to discover what has been buried. Accepting, insightful, and funny, he is a truly gifted teacher whose presence is a healing space.

     - Tami Simon, Founder, Sounds True

  • Dr. Rutstein brings a quiet depth and seasoned wisdom to the field of healing. With decades of experience and a presence shaped by mindfulness and compassion, he teaches with both gentleness and clarity. His presence is a refuge, his guidance one of reverence and restoration – a hand for those seeking a more grounded and integrated life.

    – Ruth King, author, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out

  • Jeffrey Rutstein brings a rare and remarkable combination of focus and freshness to his teaching. He brings passion and intelligence to his topics, which he extends to his students with a seriousness of purpose, warmth, and humor.

    - Dorrie C., participant

  • Jeffrey Rutstein’s teaching style and approach are truly transformative. From the moment you engage with him, he embodies the principles he teaches, helping to regulate and guide you in real time. I’ve seen people come in unsure, disconnected, or struggling, and over time—through Jeffrey’s skillful presence—they begin to find themselves, and to access strength and regulation that they didn’t know was possible. He has an incredible capacity to be a healing presence, hold space, listen deeply, and provide insightful reflections that guide you to your next steps. Unlike much of the content out there that promises change but doesn’t deliver, Jeffrey’s work genuinely fosters lasting transformation. I can’t recommend Jeffrey enough for anyone looking to understand and transform their relationship with themselves. His teachings are a journey that truly helps you become the person you want to be.

    - Steve Lessard, Program Director, The Healing Trauma Program

  • I have learned more about myself, my life, and my healing from Dr Rutstein than any other teacher. His programs and teachings have been life-changing and transformational for me. His teachings, offered with a combination of deep wisdom and experience, care, compassion, humor, and insight, are a rare and precious gift. His presence and grounded steadiness create a safety to learn and grow truly. I have recommended his teachings to all of my friends and family. Anyone who checked him out on my recommendation has returned to thank me. If you want to grow into your full potential as a human being, to deepen your connection with yourself and with others, to live a more balanced and free life, especially if you have experienced trauma, you will be glad you have a chance to learn, grow, and heal with him. I wholeheartedly, and without any reservation, recommend him to you.

    - Richard W., satisfied student

This free video is for you if…

  • You care deeply but still feel frustrated by repeating patterns

  • You want to understand your emotions through the lens of the nervous system

  • You’re ready for tools that go beyond insight—practices you can actually use